After your relationship with God, the next most important relationship in your life is the one you have with your spouse. The question is, how much attention do you pay to that relationship?
You see, it is more important than all your previous attachments. Yes! Your parents, siblings and close friends are important. I am not suggesting you have to cut them off. But, when we analyse your scale of preference, your marriage covenant partner should come tops after your Heavenly Father.
When you took your vows, you entered into a covenant with your spouse before God. The Bible views marriage as a covenant relationship between a man and a woman. You have become one in His sight and are required to keep your vows.
Most of the time, we focus so much on adultery, which is a great betrayal in a marriage relationship. There is no way I can downplay the devastation that causes. However, sometimes we miss out on other parts of our vows. What about the promise to love and cherish? What about the promise to provide? What about the promise to honour? What about the promise to submit? What about the promise to take care of the needs of each other?
Malachi 2:14 (AMP)
“… Yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant [made by your marriage vows].”
Ephesians 5:31 (NLT)
As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”
Consider this carefully. When the kids leave home and you are fortunate to have a long life, all you will have is each other. What kind of life would you have then? Would you like memories of all your past indiscretions played out before you in your old age with a cantankerous spouse stressing you out? I guess not.
The bottom line is, the way to determine your harvest in future is to sow good seeds in your relationship today. What you do with your spouse today matters. When the kids leave, you will be back where you started.
Don’t let the hustle and bustle of modern day life stop you from doing this. Start taking time out to work on your relationship today. Don’t take each other for granted. Spent time with each other, go out, have fun, be romantic and enjoy each other’s company. It doesn’t take a lot of money to do this.